So where is the answer anti trafficking gurus?

So after my recent violent rape by a trick I wrote to the anti trafficking gurus, Farley, Hughes, and Hughes minion Melanie Shapiro.  They were so convinced criminalizing indoor prostitution in Rhode Island would stop this kind of activity.  Well, gurus of anti trafficking.  I live in North Carolina where it has always been criminalized.  Not only wasn’t I protected, but instead I was raped by a Federal Air Marshall who knew he could get away with it because of criminalization.  For me to turn him in means turning myself in.

I thought I was supposed to be safe with criminalization in place oh Gurus of Anti Trafficking.  I even wrote to each of you asking your thoughts.  And what a surprise.  Not a single one of you wrote back to me.   Not that I expected you to, but nonetheless, especially Donna Hughes, since we were friends at one time, I wondered if you would drop politics for a moment.  No you didn’t.

Criminalization creates rape of prostitutes, it creates assault of prostitutes, it creates the death of prostitutes.  Better have the minions get the bowl of water ready so you can wash your hands of your deeds Gurus of Anti Trafficking.  You are pathetic opportunists who could care less about trafficked women.  It’s a gig for you.  Have any of you been a prostitute?

Cowards.

11 Responses

  1. It’s cause there’s no money in helping you out, Jill. Why write an email to a sex worker who needs support for free?

    XX

  2. The water is poison anyway.

  3. I am trying to find help. I am a sex worker and I am well over 21 years old. Since Craigslist shut down, I posted on backpage. I’ve been contacted by MANY men who are pitching this “Let me help you make more money” crap. It is clear they are Pimps trying to engage females. Since I am old enough and wise enough to know that I don’t need a “Pimp” and would never have one here is my problem. I recently received a call and then texts from a pimp trying to get me to meet up with him and telling me the whole I can help you make more money spill. I’m assuming this is how they get naive females attention, anyway after I declined and asked him to loose my number, he proceeded to make threats. He sent me over 20 text messages (which I have saved) from number 832-XXX-XXXX. In addition he called me and told me IS going to find me because he knows exactly how to do it. This is a person I have never met and whom got my number from a backpage ad. I never encountered this with Craigslist.

    I am afraid for my life but I am afraid to contact the authorities as I am well aware that I can get investigated myself for my chosen profession and possibly arrested. I have never been arrested especially for what I am now doing. I have only chosen to do this because I lost my job as a customer service rep and this economy has made it difficult for me to find a new job. I have kids, therefore I had to find a means to support myself and my kids until I can find a job. I am not proud of what I am doing but my choices were very limited. I would have never in my life imagined I would have been doing this for a living and in the past, I was even very judgmental of women who did. I often sterotyped sex workers just like many people do. Thinking that most women have Pimps, are drug addicts or alcoholics, come from very disfunctional familes, must be brainless, Never went to College, infested with STD’s, and shouldn’t cry about rape or things of that nature, since they sell their body anyway. I have now walked in their shoes and understand that many women choose to do it for many different reasons. I am nothing like the stereo types people often think about. In fact, I have been living a double life to maintain my flawless reputation. My Family, Friends and especially my children have no clue that I am doing what I am doing. I have established a regular 9 to 5 schedule for myself so that there is no suspicion. When I do have to leave in the evening (which is quite rare) I will usually ask my Mom to watch my kids because my friends and I are going out on a girls night out. I typically just wear Jeans and a t-shirt but never anything provacative or revealing.

    I never applied for unemployment when I lost my job because it was not enough to live off of. The unemployment I would have received would have been 208.00 per week.My electric bill alone is 300.00 per month. My rent is 800.00 per month, car Insurance 80.00 per month, phone bill is 60.00, per month, water 60.00 per month and food for me and my two kids is around 250.00 per month. My ex husband lost his job in the construction field, so I stopped receiving child support and my kids lost their health insurance.

    Here is the text messages I received from the PIMP. I have typed them in verbatim:

    9/22/10: 3:30 pm.
    Hey babygurl, get at me so that we can get together and talk business. I see that you are beautiful and I can help you make a lot of money.

    3:33 p.m.
    Wow, you have me totally confused with th today’s broke hustlers mama. the majority of the dboys/gangstas don’t know about the lifestyle me and you both living!!

    3:33 p.m.
    I promise you have really met your match!!! I am not black with a criminal record, didn’t graduate highschool nor college and get high daily. That is not me.

    3:36 p.m.
    Well first of all, I don’t recruit the army and navy recruit. I get chose! An second to fuck with me it takes a lot moma to be and maintain a successful life so a young immature naive young lady is going to have no understanding!! An third I am black and I’m proud to be black!! An I have a excellent education transcript from grade school to college I have a degree in Avoinics Eng. I have my A&P lic. Aircraft Inspection Lic. an pilot lic. An I attend the University of Houston main campus! I’m very well rounded babygurl I’m basically a perfectionist at anything I put my mind and hands on!

    3:42 p.m.
    I’m in seek of that woman that really knows and want better in life an want to be with a gentleman like myself that’s gonna truly guide her in the right direction in life with this lifestyle we choose to live!

    3:44 p.m
    O yea and I hate weed, I work out everyday I eat no more than 2500 calories a day and I don’t drink!! So next time quit being a square tryin to judge sumone before you even give them a chance!

    3:45 p.m.
    Oh yea fuck you! An choose a real Professional In Moving Progress! Its not the real ones fault that you have choose the fake!! If you think this is bullshit, I wouldn’t be living the way im living and having the items I have!

    3:52 p.m.
    You have to been with or have choose someone before that played with you or misguided you in the past.

    3:57 p.m
    Bitch fuck you!!!…..you are mad cause u broke hoe! Bitch go get a job hoe a square job its bitchs like you in the way of the real that’s doin this the right way! Fuck yo nothing ass u just don’t know what u started bitch watch this shit!!

    ( I repeatedly asked him to stop texting me and harassing me. When he threatened me, I told him that I was going to report him to the police. Then I received the following text messages)

    4:01 p.m.
    Yea itz kool go ahead do what u do! That’s gone do exactly what I want to happen get yo punk ass out the way!! So the real Hoes can get some money!!

    4:02 p.m.
    You gone learn what hustling your pussy alone is gone get ya and that’s no where!

    4:03 p.m.
    Now go do what u do best and that’s go be a snitch you punk ass nothing!!

    4:07 p.m.
    Go ahead an continue an do your incalls at _______ and _______ monday thru fridays. I know where to find you bitch!!

    4:08 p.m
    How am I harassing you. LOL I wanna hear you call the police so I can laugh with them you dumb fuck!!

    4:16 p.m
    Bitch get a life!!

    4:17 p.m.
    Bitch get a life!!

    4:18 p.m.
    Bitch get a life!!

    4:19 p.m.
    C u soon Bitch!!!

    If anyone can help me, I would appreciate some suggestions. Pimps are well aware that they are able to victimize sex workers without reprecussions unless it’s an underage child. Law Enforcement has not given us a choice to report things like this and they do not offer any protection for us. I don’t know what to do. I am an adult woman who has now been threated and I am in fear for my life. Based on the text messages, I got the impression that he is going to come after me for rejecting his propositions. PLEASE HELP!!

  4. Nadia,

    I’m sorry but we can’t post phone numbers on here.

    If you’ve never met this pimp and he really has no idea who you are other than a sex worker with a phone number, I’m not sure how he can physically threaten you. That being said, it IS a scary thing. Pimps use psychological manipulation far more than the stereotype of beatings (not saying that they don’t do that either).

    Get a new phone for work and stop posting the number on your ads. Email only.

    XX

  5. If prostitution and pimpoing and customers were decriminalized, then you could get a restraining order against whom ever is harassing and or file a complaint with the police, and there wouldn’t be the threat of being retaliated against by having to call the police. And if we had an anti discrimination piece in place, you wouldn’t have to worry about any kinds of negative repercussions from any sector in your life, school, housing, employment….child custody…either.

    But alas that’s not the way it is now. The police are probably hustling him and that’s why he’s so embolden to get away with drug dealing and hustling. They’re making money off of him. And that’s why LE wants to continue to arrest us, they make money off of sitting around with pretty girls..in handcuffs…

    As for the anti’s they could careless about us, that’s clear. I rather think they sit back and enjoy knowing that the policies they support are causing so much harm, I believe they get off on it, literally, for free.

  6. @Maxine,

    You re totally right about what would happen in the same scenario or similar ones if prostitution were decriminalized.

    As for the anti’s, I never anticipated a response. I totally knew they were totally biased and hypocritical in their alleged desire to end violence or even actually deal with actual violence. Instead they focus on their powerpoints with their “studies” that have nothing to do with reality, but that have everything to do with their career advancement and their agenda.

  7. Nadia,

    I’m a little late to this back and forth but don’t engage this person in banter. Ignore him. Or her. It’s difficult but if you answer texts, etc., you’re just feeding into his game.

    Sometimes, a phone works best and it’s difficult to NOT use a phone number with ads. But if you’re doing that, then learn to use your phone as something that works for you and not against you. Learn to say no.

    Jill’s story is heartbreaking. Not much more to offer on her topic. Just a good luck and very warm thoughts your way!!!

  8. I have been contacted in the past and this is my response.

    Ok great, I’d love to make more money.. Currently I’m getting $_____ but if you want to book me some clients at $100 more, then I will split that extra $100 profit with you fiddy fiddy but just so you know sweetie, I dont work for you, YOU WORK FOR ME.

    Now let’s see what you can do. Go ahead and send me all that high dolla bizness. Anytime, I’m ready.

    3 our of 3 pimply men have stated that they felt I was doing just fine on my own and I wasn’t in need of their services.

    I agree it would be nice to just pick up and phone and say, “help” but quite frankly, I’d rather be attacked then go into “protective custody”….. . At least I’d have a fighting chance if one of these dudes came after me but you’re not allowed to fight “police protection” aka ARREST.

  9. Elizabeth, though I realize you’re trying to be helpful, I have a concern about your response to Nadia. I don’t really agree with saying that she’s “feeding into his game” because that’s like unintentionally blaming her for his behavior. It looks like he’s stalking her and in that case, the problem is with him, not her. She has every right to demand that he stop.

    Though I haven’t experienced exactly what Nadia’s describing, I have been harrassed before and simply ignoring such people doesn’t make them go away.

    When I was working for a certain webcam company, somebody kept coming into my free chatroom and harrassing me. I removed this person repeatedly but he or she kept coming back in. When I realized that removing this person from my chatroom wasn’t working, I started ignoring her or him. Yet,. this person still kept harrassing me, which was one of the reasons I stopped working for this company.

    I’ve also had some great experiences with webcam so I don’t mean to criticize the whole industry. I’m just saying that ignoring doesn’t necessarily work.

  10. In answer to your last question Jill, I think it is realy obvious that they are pimps.
    Making their living off sex workers……

  11. […] And there it is.  There, right there.   In the way it makes me feel.  In the connection it creates.  That’s why BDSM is worth it.  Worth the stigma, worth the effort of explanation; worth identifying as my gin-you-wine sexual orientation.  It’s worth the emotional energy and determination required to maintain my wholeness when people try to tell me this is wrong, that it’s bad for you or bad for your partners or bad for feminism or bad for society.  This is one of the big reasons I believe that anti-sex feminists are fundamentally wrong, especially when they outright conflate consensual acts with abusive ones.  (The other one being that censorship and criminalization and other anti-sex policies actually end up putting women at risk.) […]

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