Radical feminist therapy

MAnd below in the description is the mechanism in which radical feminist anti/porn/prostitution activism is misused.

It sounds like a great idea.  Encourage a client to participate in the world in a move social and political way.  Connect the client with other survivors, take out the aggression built up by being abused, raped, brutalized, whatever.  Perhaps it’s a good theory.  But, like other attach oppressed to the political fight it is misused.

1.  Someone in therapy doesn’t NOT belong on the battlefield.  Not on any battlefield.  To say that it is connecting them to fighting their oppression.  Bullshit.  It is using people in need of supportive safe environments that are empathic, constructive and ones that teach important skills such as ownership of feelings, boundaries and being able to move beyond being victimized.  The term survivor is valuable but it has dangers.  It is forever locking a person victimized to that horror.  At some point the best therapy may lead a person to move beyond the victim/survivor time frame.  To be able to put it behind them and go forward with a healthy, fulfilling life.  A battlefield is not that place.  No one becomes healthier in a war.  Anger can be a very nourishing emotion that feeds for a long time.  Anger has it’s place.  But radical feminism points clients at soft targets and says go to battle.  If you do you are at war, in a battle with people that don’t inherently realize the worldviews are totally different.  Maggie Hays sees herself as fighting the oppression of her people under the crushing repression of porniarchy.  That isn’t what’s happening.  Until a year ago I had never even heard of Maggie Hays.  Probably most of us haven’t.  There is no porniarchy.  That is a fact.   Is there porn?  Yes.  Is some of it bad, some very bad?  Yes.  Is it a plot against maggie, against women, against radical feminism?  No.  I doubt Larry Flynt has heard of Maggie or Jill Brenneman or of Renegade Evolution.  Even if he has at best I would guess we have occupied about 12 seconds of his through process.  Larry Flynt is a multi millionaire who probably knows little about the radical feminist war against him.  As a multi millionaire why the fuck would he even care?

Sending out people in counseling, connecting them to their oppression by fighting Renegade Evolution, Jill Brenneman, Robyn Few???  WTF?  That solves nothing and leads the R/F faithful into a battle in which they don’t belong.  I can only speak for myself but I am years and years into therapy,  to the point where the pain and suffering in the sex industry and from a sexual assault outside the sex industry are long over.  I don’t have anger, sadness, flashback, nightmares, nothing about those events anymore.  I”m not a victim/survivor.  I was but that time frame is over.

I did the rad fem warrior thing.  I thought that the empathy that I got from my therapist at CPA was what I would find from all in radical feminism.  My therapist at CPA was a trained advocate/counselor/therapist.  Trained to be empathic, to help set boundaries, to live healthy.  When the program folded unexpectedly, I thought I would find others who were radical feminists to be like the couneslor.  They weren’t.  I was suddenly a holy warrior to save women from sexual slavery and bought and sold rape and all the r/f lines.  I didn’t need to be part of that shit.  It delayed for a decade my emotional improvement.  Kept me trapped in the victim/survivor role, the warrrior for the cause role.  Fuck,,,   the greatest victory was what Mary, the advocate counselor stated in the very first hour we met.  My survival and health were the victory.  That was the only important victory.

Radical feminism/anti porn anti prostitution feminism is often poisonous.  Poisoned by autocratic, out of touch leaders like Hughes, Farley and Craft, none of whom survived shit.  They are profiteers and holy warriors that stay safe in the bunker ordering the soldiers to fight and risk anything and everything.  And God help the victim survivor if they don’t comply.  They are cowards, they are heretics, they are apostates, they are anti victim/anti survivors, even collaborators with the evil enemy.  Only the enemy doesn’t exist.  At least not as viewed by those believing in the fallacy of porniarchy.

We are all fighting rape.  All advocating for rights for women, for oppressed populations to be free of abuse, to have equal rights, equal opportunities.  Yet the rad fem leadership types hide that fact because they want to be generals in the holy war throwing martyrs at collateral enemies, all while having their high paying jobs, high paying speaking gigs.

I could have stuck with the hypocrisy, God knows I made a lot more money for speaking gigs as a rad fem.  Just shut my mouth, ignore the shit I couldn’t swallow and collect the money.  But that, didn’t sit with me.   The lunacy of NIkki  Craft’s paranoia about me and others that blew past barriers and went into advocating death.  That is fucking nuts.  It is hugely distorted reality.  It’s psychosis really.

Maggie Hays and her missive about porniarchy.  Holy shit.  If she and others really believe that faux sociology and structure making them the victims of histories worst oppressive conquest.  As amusing and funny as I find Maggie’s website, it really isn’t.  If it were a sociological joke it would be really funny.  But people believe that shit.  We wonder how someone could become a suicide bomber.  What the recruiting mechanism for that is?  Take someone hugely oppressed, convince them that they can be a hero and no longer being an isolated victim but instead a brave warrior who took their convictions of fighting the enemy and saving the oppressed to the point of self sacrifice and loss of life while harming or killing people peripherally or totally unrelated to the actual oppressors.

Does George Bush care about a suicide bomber that blows up anyone?  Probably not.  He doesn’t know the victims.  They are just statistics.

Maggie’s theory is completely off.  There is no war.  There is conspiracy, there is no conquest.  Want to fight injustice?  Great do that.  But framing it in some holy war context against a faux enemy that doesn’t even know it is the enemy or who the holy warriors are, using counseling clients?  That is fucking abuse in itself.  Maggie and many others would be far better suited if they invested their time in their own health rather than worrying about fighting a war against some enemy that doesn’t even know they exist.  And for the most part doesn’t care.

Want to fight oppression of women.  Then fight by ending oppression.  Not by making enemies of those who are not enemies.  Forget the apostasy.  Forget the heresy.  Just deal with the fucking real world issues like HIV prevention, educating against sexual violence.  Even fighting sexual violence with shelters, with programs, with politics free counseling focused on the health of the client, not including the client in the holy war.

Maggie Hays uses radical feminism as a recruiting tool for her war.  Kyle Payne used it as a way to abuse a woman.  Perhaps both Maggie and Kyle were victimized in the past.  Neither of them belong in the political battlefield.  Nor do the people harmed by their abuses of their own ideology.

I hate to disappoint the rad fem faithful but I”ve dealth with Farley, Hughes, Craft, Raymond, and none of them give a shit about victim/survivors other than their use in the war.  And take a look at the heirarchy.  Are any of them, Farley, Hughes, Craft, Raymond, Chesler, Lederer, the list goes on actually taking risks?  Or are they just either getting fulfillment via power, authority and money?

Connect someone just recently having been raped to political activism and fighting an oppressor.   What a total bunch of shit.  Do we tell a cancer patient as part of their therapy they should fight the causes of their cancer rather than focus on chemo?  NO.

Radical feminist anti porn feminism is fundamentalist bullshit.  It feeds on the same dynamic that has empowered Jim Jones, Osama Bin Laden, Pol Pot.  Take horribly oppressed people and empower them to fight the wrong people and to risk everything in that battle while the glorious leaders bask in the benefits.

It’s total shit.

Radical feminist therapy is a set of related therapies arising from the disparity between the origin of most psychological theories and the majority of people seeking counseling being female. It focuses on societal, cultural, and political causes and solutions to issues faced in the counseling process. It openly encourages the client to participate in the world in a more social and political way.

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[edit] The Basic Tenets of Feminist Therapy

Feminist therapy has emerged from the recognition that much of human suffering is a result of the unequal distribution of power in society, particularly based upon gender, race and ethnicity, class, dis/ability, sexual orientation, and so forth. These power differentials have been a factor in direct injuries such as sexual assault as well as indirect ones such as limited options. A feminist approach implies a commitment to social change. The practice of feminist therapy is thus politicized in both its theoretical understanding of the causes of injury as well as in its enactment. A collaborative and respectful working relationship is therefore at the foundation of feminist therapy.[1]

Aids 2008: Homophobia March

100+ Sex Workers came together to march against Homophobia at the 1st International March against Homophobia While I was marching with everyone there was a beautiful transgendered woman from the group behind us, who was telling me that this was the very first time foreigners were allowed by the government to march in Mexico. This is not only amazing and a historic moment, but also that over 100 sex workers came to march and show their support for the LGBTIQQ community. The energy was amazing, and the NSWP, Aproase, and others gave us t-shirts so we would all match! But wait! there’s MORE! We marched 3 MILES, carrying banners, signs and chanting the whole way!

Sorry I’m behind in my postings (this is from August 2nd) but my Internet is quite spotty here, and we are all sharing laptops to get everything done that we need to get done for the conference!! I’ll get more pictures up as soon as possible from the march, and many other amazing amazing things will be coming coming coming!

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