Kyle Payne, Maggie Hays, Microcosms of a movement

Kyle Payne is a microcosm of the dangerous dynamic of radical feminism. He and Maggie Hays aren’t so far apart even though they are worlds apart and I am by no means comparing her to a sexual predator. Agree or disagree with her or her politics, even her methods, but she is not kyle and nothing like him. Their radical feminist anti porn activism websites have hit some milestones this week for very different reasons.

Maggie’s “I blame the Porniarchy “is faux sociology with a huge sense of needing to be oppressed at the worst level possible in a way that can only be described by reading it. Put it this way it is about the global conquest of women by the porniarchy. It involves, pornocrats, promises to never surrender to the porniarchy infidel type conquerors.

Kyle Payne, one time pro feminist/anti porn radical feminist, still self advertising as one despite his conviction and guilt in the sexual assault of a female student he was responsible for as an RA in an Iowa college. They are very far apart in some ways. In others very similar, linked by a parasitic faction of radical feminism.

But the effects of radical feminism are there in both of them. It’s appeal is to a person victimized by some sort of abuse. It’s a movement that says welcome, join us, process your pain through talking with us about it, share with us about it. If it were in a support group/mental health setting with controls like neutral group leaders, etc, it probably could be a good thing for many. But this attach victim/survivors to recovery via fighting some mythical/monolithic enemy because justice isn’t available is toxic. It is a blood bank for psychic vampires like Farley, a holy war for the high and mighty ones to use the lower hierarchy rad fems as cannon fodder to prove themselves as worthy. The last fucking thing someone that is recovering from trauma needs is to be put into a warrior environment fighting some thing seemingly so evil that it is viewed as an archy that has enslaved 3.5 billion people, taken over a culture or cultures and is some orchestrated plan when fact is it isn’t.

Kyle didn’t belong anywhere near radical feminism. It became novaciane for him to cover whatever he was feeling from his own past abuse. He was surrounded by victim/survivors and ultimately his hunger was too much. Like the sadistic cop surrounded by vulnerable people it is a matter of time before his belly became empty and he had to feed off a victim. His actions will forever change his victim.

Kyle belongs no where near feminist activism. Especially radical feminism where so many are so vulnerable. He tries to make the case that he is making amends, but the fact that his CV/marketing sheet is still up on his blog undermines all his I’m not doing anymore activism until I’m better shit. His diatribe about being smeared by pro porn bloggers. He still sees vast enemies and himself as the victim. Who knows whether his rad fem allies will eventually forgive and forget his atrocities because they need the token male pro feminist. Not to mention rad feminism is not a movement that tends to police itself. Had the SWR movement especially Ren made a huge amount of noise it is likely the rad fems would have covered this up for the sake of party loyalty, allowed him to stay because he’s a valuable soldier in their Quixotic war.

If he truly wanted to face up to his crimes he wouldn’t close comments to his amends letter and beg for women to write to him. He is still trolling. He probably doesn’t even recognize this.

Kyle, dude, if you want to make amends and do it right, then open yourself up to people holding you accountable, take it like a fucking adult, don’t make excuses, don’t give reasons, just fucking take it, straight on without flinching to avoid the pain, look people in the eye that you have hurt and take their anger, their betrayal and whatever else they feel and give them the respect of honoring their feelings without inserting yourself into it. That would be a statement of being accountable and willing to face your crimes.

This woosey passive aggressive, please write me women, but in silence, sounds like you are trying to play the bottom that wants to still control. If you are making amends, you don’t get to control. You take your punishment straight on, do it with dignity asking nothing in return, allow those you hurt to say what they need as long as they need to until they are whole again. Go to meetings not just with your therapist and supportive parents but with other sex offenders, because Kyle you are a sex offender, a sex addict, and until you face your peers, other sex offenders who will call you on your bullshit, you wont’ be called on your bullshit fully because only other sex offenders truly will understand your thought process and motives.

Why do I get the feeling Kyle doesn’t have the cojones or desire to make amends straight?

And Kyle, stay the fuck away from young women, especially ones that have been victims of abuse. Now that you have tasted blood, it will always be there.

If you want to make amends than do it right. If not than shut the fuck up as you are worse now than you were when you committed the act because now you are just getting off on the whole drama playing passive aggressive.

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