They all want to talk to us now…

My in-box and those of my friends have been inundated with media requests for comments on the Spitzer scandal. New York Times, MSNBC, ABC, CBS, FOX 9, NYC…and so on. They seem to have found us from various ads we have posted on the web.

What these media people don’t seem to understand, however, is that none of us wishes to be “Kristen.” None of us wants a spotlight shown on our lives, exposing for all of mal-intent our vulnerabilities in this legally ambiguous profession in which we have chosen to engage.

As was pointed out in Audacia’s post, they’re not really interested in our plight, or understanding who we are as people, or why we do what we do, or how they can help us. They are only interested in how we can help them– how a comment by a true whore will appeal to the prurient interest of the public and thus increase their ratings. They have no concept that their scoop could be used against us, to ruin our lives and take away our children, homes, and assets.

Sure, they say they are willing to disguise our voices, our faces, etc., but what story are they after? One who contacted me was simply interested in knowing (according to his email) if I had seen Spitzer, and what he was like. Another wanted to know if I’d worked in DC, and what that was like. But how willing would they be to portray us as real humans with all the same issues that other humans face, rather than one-dimensional whores? Seeing the nasty results of speaking to the press in the past, I, for one, don’t trust ’em.

So, media folk, show us your stuff. Spend more time on our needs and wishes in the media- portray us honestly and not just sensationally, take us seriously when we speak, and we’ll be much more willing to talk to you.

12 Responses

  1. Exactly! I’ve got a lot to say, but too much distrust. If their inquiries suggest that they only see us as ‘one-dimensional whore’, then how are we supposed to trust them with our identity?

  2. Exactly. My faith in the News Media is not real high. And they don’t even want to pay up for the pleasure.

  3. […] the past two days, the media has been increasingly clamoring to talk to sex workers and sex workers’ rights activists (who are often one in the same). […]

  4. “What is it like?” What a way to start a conversation with someone you don’t even know.

    I had one inquiry who was disappointed I worked for myself. He wanted to know the workings of an agency. What’s wrong with his fingers? Can’t he Google? (I should’ve had my spiel prepared on how I’d rather be an indie!)

    XX

  5. Yeah, what Ren said. They’re happy to waste my time so that they can get a good sex story and sell commercials, but they never want to pay my hourly fee, which is actually quite reasonable compared to what Spitzer was paying.

    Although I read an article with an interview of another escort who supposedly had Spitzer as a client. She seemed to be more of a realistic example of the industry. 80K wouldn’t go far with ECV girls, so surely he was also indulging in the more commonly accessible areas of the industry as well- which requires little to no financial-trail risks. How sad for the ECV people that their whole system of avoiding getting busted by being an up-market service is in the end what actually took them down due to suspicious sums of money being moved through a client’s account.

    This whole story really seems to turn so many different misconceptions on their heads. That’s why it’s such a valuable opportunity for real journalists to dig in and tell an interesting and new story.

    So I’m willing to speak to media if they demonstrate to me that they’ve thought about this issue beyond what meets the standards for sweeps week. But if they just want me to labor my mind, image and personality for their entertainment- they’ll have to book a session and pay my full fee.

  6. As someone who works in Internet based porn I have had my fair share of interview requests. I have turned down most appearances because I knew that they had a story to tell and it was not mine. This is especially the case when a scandal occurs.

    I am not surprised though that those with the view of ‘sex work as exploitation’ and ‘sex worker as victim’ are accepting media inquiries. They love the opportunity.

    So what do we as sex workers to tell our truth? I am glad the Internet has allowed us to get our voices heard. It may not be enough. I hope that there are more journalists who will look at the exploitation and violence that comes from the current American laws. I hope this scandal sparks the greater discussion and not just focus on the details of a transaction and such things.

    An aside – do you think the media has found the client boards and have they been seeking out men (even among their own acquaintances) to share their experiences as clients, their motives, etc… ? So far I have not heard anything from the client perspective. I have always thought that it is very important for clients to join our cause to end stigma and bring about better, safer working conditions. They need not do so openly and publicly, exposing their interests to friends and family, but they are part of the equation.

  7. […] Some of the media request I’ve been getting want me to rat out my own clients. They want to know if I fucked Spitzer. Given the option, I’m sure they’d also have me stride up and down the hallway in a pair of fuck-me pumps and a quarter-cup bra. I’m not alone. […]

  8. Never never trust the media… thank god for the internet that embraces free speech…

    I have even started doing stand up comedy because it is the strongest level of sex work activism I have done.. breaking all myths of what a whore looks like.. oh shit a women that is chunky… educated… sexually empowered… I do embrace all the dodgy things I’ve seen… but dont think that sex workers are dodgy… just the characters we meet and attract are… and it’s pretty damm funny🙂

    Back to media… we are sex workers… we can do our own media… I’m sick of the media twisting our words not embracing us that we are NOT VICTIMS we are humans with fucking brains and we choose this cause it’s better than working for $10 per hour for some multi national company working my ass off and seeing how much they rip people off… not my cuppa tea thank you🙂

  9. I’ve been fantasizing about a sex worker TV station for several months now…

    XX

  10. […] They all want to talk to us now… « Bound, Not Gagged “They have no concept that their scoop could be used against us, to ruin our lives and take away our children, homes, and assets.” (tags: Spitzer sexwork media msm) […]

  11. […] Sexuality can be discussed with the full level of nuance and intelligence it deserves, not merely used as a titillating eye-catcher; the voices of individuals can be respected rather than tokenized and used for cheap shots. No need […]

  12. […] of stereotypes – as well as MSM’s clumsy and transparently insincere attempts to “reach out” to sex workers. Behind the scenes, via email, text messages, and Twitter DMs, sex workers and their allies wasted […]

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