N.Zealand man fined for removing condom during sex

Old news, but worth revisiting for a moment.
Recently, I met a sex worker who is pregnant with a child conceived from rape. Not the back-alley-dark-stranger rape, but a rape where a client pulled a condom off without the sex workers consent. Not until after the act was the discarded condom found, and the crime realized.
This is a crime only a sex worker could articulate… the boundaries of body, the contract of consent. When you realize the man in your living room, so cordial and polite, just stole your tribute when your weren’t looking, and maybe even threatened you to do something about it, and yes, even darker realizations than that….
Funny thing is, I have had encounters with the darker aspects of men much like this. I almost believe their cowardly approach to ripping me off or violating me is some adrenaline fueled attempt at power that is barely able to break the surface of self-knowledge. Meaning, they are barley aware of their own behavior, and able to deny it since they only did it this once… with a whore no less. The “crime” of prostitution itself, mixed with the frustration of having to “pay for it”, and throw in the lack of recourse for such a violation; you have sex workers as the testing ground for those who might would do harm to people. Otherwise law-abiding citizens might act in violent or criminal ways simply because of the stigma that sex worker themselves can do nothing about it. Thank God 99.9% of my clients love and respect women very much, both in open society, and behind closed doors.
It’s not true, you know. We are not beyond recourse. I have seen lawless methods get results, and always without a threat of violence. Usually a threat to call his wife will do the job:) However, I would prefer if it never happened in the first place, and it doesn’t have to. I think they would never even take the bait if they knew for a second they might have to answer for their behavior.
07/2005 22:56
WELLINGTON (Reuters) – A New Zealand man charged with putting a prostitute’s life at risk by removing a condom during sex has been fined in a groundbreaking case, welcomed on Friday by civil rights groups and sex workers. Daniel Morgan, 48, was fined NZ$400 (154 pounds) and ordered to pay costs in the Christchurch District Court on Thursday after pleading guilty to the charge, the first of its kind under a new unsafe
sex law which is part of the 2003 Prostitution Reform Act. The maximum fine under the act is NZ$2,000.”As a test case, it was a minimum fine but it shows that the Act is working,” Calum Bennachie of the New Zealand Prostitutes Collective said. “The social penalty is a lot larger. He is a married man, his name has been given in open court as having gone along to a sex worker, so there’s a lot of stigmatisation that goes along with that as well,” he told Reuters.Outside the court, the prostitute told reporters that she would have to wait for another six weeks before tests could determine whether she had contracted the HIV/AIDS virus. “It feels like a death sentence. I still don’t know whether it will be or not,” the unidentified prostitute said. Morgan told the court he had removed the condom without the prostitute’s knowledge because he knew that she would not have consented to having sex without one.

“Quite often the stigmatisation will prevent other people from doing the same thing,” Bennachie said. The case was widely reported by New Zealand media and details of it were confirmed by police and government officials on Friday.

2 Responses

  1. […] N.Zealand man fined for removing condom during sex « Bound, Not Gagged “The ‘crime’ of prostitution itself, mixed with the frustration of having to ‘pay for it’, and throw in the lack of recourse for such a violation; you have sex workers as the testing ground for those who might would do harm to people.” (tags: sexwork prostitution society assholes stigma law rape crime women men) […]

  2. I read this earlier. My favorite part is his defense: “he had removed the condom without the prostitute’s knowledge because he knew that she would not have consented to having sex without one.” Meaning, he just couldn’t stand a sex worker who insisted on taking care of herself (and by extension — her clients). There are certainly guys in America like this.

    On the other hand, there is a huge problem with a male Australian sex worker (who traveled to New Zealand too) who knowingly exposed his clients to HIV — after he knew he was infected.

    Damned if you take care of yourself, certainly damned if you don’t.

    XX

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