Sorry Farley, your end run to get access to my history and divide a friend and I failed. On the ethics issue… Nice………

Over ten years ago I met a woman who became a long time close friend named Katherine DePasquale. Ironically we became friends because of Melissa Farley’s tantrum about me. Katherine interviewed me for an article she was writing in 1997 about prostitution. Katherine and I didn’t know each other. Katherine also talked to Farley who threw such a tantrum about me being included in the article that Katherine called me back asking me what the deal was. We became close friends from that conversation and have been ever since. Farley refused to publish the article acting on her threat to Katherine as she would not publish an article with an interview with me in it as it would “give me credibility”. This was more than ten years ago when I was staunchly on the anti side.

This week Farley contacts Katherine twice in the same day claiming to have suddenly “found” this article and wanting to publish it. She also asked Katherine for her opinion stating “fascinating that Jill Brenneman is now so rabidly proprostitution on her site called “bound not gagged.” Do you have any thoughts on that transformation?”

A few thoughts to ponder about Farley’s ethics.

1…In 2004 I made it very clear to Farley that I did not want her to use anything of mine on her site or in her work. Which she agreed at the time.
2…Material that wasn’t good enough to publish ten years ago when Katherine and I agreed, material she refused to publish because I was involved, was now appropriate for her site against my wishes.
3… I am not the owner of Bound Not Gagged, just a contributor. Is there ever an end to the list of transgressions to radical feminism I am assumed to be part of. This has to be the tenth time in three months that something the antis deem as evil is attributed to me as the source. Which is fine, that she assumes I created Bound Not Gagged is a compliment. But no I didn’t. I”m just a contributor.
4..While it worked with another one time close friend, dangling the insider status in front of Katherine into radical feminist elite didn’t tempt her into betraying a friend. While Katherine may not always agree with my politics she is a very good friend and addresses her concerns to me not to some parasitic “researcher” out to divide my close friends and I from each other, as Nikki Craft did successfully with another one time close friend,
5… Farley wonders about the challenges to her ethics. Is using the experiences of someone harmed in prostitution against their wishes after they specifically denied her authorization to use their history and words ethical? What the fuck?

Sorry Farley,,, (wasn’t there a tuna commercial sorry charley?) but your effort to divide and do a hostile acquisition of my history failed.

Melissa, doing end runs to try to steal my history is not the act of a reputable researcher. Which is exactly the point I have been making about ethical transgressions of you, Craft and Hughes. If I wanted you to have my history for your research I would contact you. Here is a tip. Don’t wait by the phone.

My thanks to Katherine for once again being the wonderful friend she has always been and my respect for her polite and professional response to Farley.

8 Responses

  1. why am I not surprised?

  2. She wonders why her integrity and ethics are challenged.

    I love the part about me being rabidly pro prostitution. When?

    My stance has long been harm reduction and sex worker rights. Rabidly pro prostitution. I’d like to see documentation of that.

    Of and of course along with running a cult, commanding an army of infiltrators, and co-opters of feminism, for owning some pro porn blog that I haven’t even seen, now I own this blog too.

    I am evil. It’s possible I was born in June 66, which would be 6.66 so do the math.

  3. heh, i wonder if it’s my pro porn blog that you’re being accused of owning?

  4. She sounds like a real piece of work.

  5. My name is Jody Williams. Some of you know me as I was at Melissa Farley’s press conference and at UNLV in September. I need to make a public announcement that I am no longer associated with, working with, connected with, or even communicating with Melissa Farley, PRE or NCAST anymore. I’m still doing my outreach work through http://www.sexworkersanonymous.com – and I have started a direct outreach project in Nevada at http://www.endslavery.net – but that’s all I’m involved with right now. Thanks guys and gals on here!

    Jody

  6. What convinced me that legalization or decriminalization would be the right approach to prostitution were not the arguments given by their proponents, but the characteristics of prohibitionists: Lies, tricks, hysteria, all the symptoms of a moral panic and the strange misogyny of radical feminism. If you have to ruin your own credibility to make a point – how strong may your position be?

  7. I am new to this sight and quite frankly I think it is wonderful that there is some kind of unity among we individuals whom this is our livelihood.As far as the Farley thing I personally think she should shut the f–k up and let us deal with the realities of what we do instead of having to deal with a person who obviously doesn’t understand why we do what we do or how hard it is to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Thank you for existing.I appreciate being able to see some of the things from other parts of the world.

  8. I’m a former prostitute. I did it for four years to avoid my common-law wife (this was before Canada legalized full same-sex marriage and I met my current wife who saved me from…) beating me to shit for not keeping food in the kitchen or get her money to get strung out with. I’m not proud of my time as a sex worker but I refuse to be ashamed of it either. It was literally my only income option to keep safe in my own home. I will never be “pro-prostitution” in that I long for a world where it’s never neccessary for survival, but I’m rabidly pro-decriminalization because we have rights and we need to be protected from harm, not persecuted for taking the risk to survive. This Farley person sounds batshit crazy, and sleazy to boot, and I’m glad I never met her.

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